I am riding high on the waves of one of the most productive days I’ve had in a long time. It didnt start great. I woke up this morning to a downpour – well wait, I didnt actually wake up to it. In actuality, I woke up at 3 a.m. to a toddler yelling from his room “I have to go pottttyyyyyyyy and my tummy is telling me Im soooooo thirstyyyyyyyy”. So of course after I got all that nonsense sorted out and got back into bed, I couldn’t sleep. So I actualy tossed and turned until it got light out and started pouring. I was in no mood to get up and get ready for work, so I decided to lay in bed to at least rest my body if not my brain – and then eventually I would just get up and work from home.
I eventually roused myself at about 7:30 or so and decided to first tackle my bedroom. I had what seemed like humongous piles of clean and semi-clean clothes stacked up in a not so inconspicuous place in my room – due to lack of proper unpacking from two trips to Florida and a backup of putting away folded laundry. Its been like that for over a month now and I just couldn’t get motivated to deal with it. This morning I moved it all on top of my bed and proceeded to either put it away or wash it. A small thing, but it made me so happy.
Then I went into the office to fire up the work email. One of my first emails was from someone at work telling me that the big mistake I thought I made (and come to think of it probably most of the reason I couldn’t fall back asleep or get motivated to go to work) turned out to be no big deal. Crisis averted.
And lastly, and most importantly, I think that maybe finally, FINALLY we are getting our act together for the second adoption. I pulled out the paperwork for the homestudy and went over it all again. What first seemed overwhelming didn’t seem so bad all of a sudden. I started cranking through the forms in between conference calls and emails and before long I had most of the packet put together. As of tonight, here is what I have left:
1. A notarized letter signed by husband giving me permission to order his certified birth certificate on line (husband’s job)
2. Wait for said birth certificate, along with my own and our marriage certificate in the mail
3. Go to the doctor and have the medical forms filled out (need to postpone as much as possible so I can try to lose 50 pounds – shut up I can try)
4. Figure out if I need a psych report done
5. Fill out the financial form (husband’s job)
6. Go to fingerprinting appointment on Saturday
7. Write autobiographies (It was a dark and stormy night. I couldnt get pregnant, we adopted a kid. We want another. The End)
8. Write check for “annual fee” (for exactly what we can’t figure out – one of those mystery fees)
So in a few weeks this will all be wrapped up and then they will send the social worker over to confirm that I am STILL not an axe murderer and we can get on with it.
I also still need to figure out how to do all this stupid Hague compliant training. Our home study agency makes us do 40 credits – and most things that count (like books and online seminars and stuff) are only 2 or 3 credits each. It doesn’t seem like we get any credit at all for already being parents of an adopted kid! How ridiculous! Ive asked if we can get credit for being in the country for 3 weeks – can’t get any more closer to the culture than that, right? Waiting for an answer on that one. Plus we have to do 10 hours of the Hague specific training – which from all accounts looks like we just have to pay $150-175 bucks for an online course. If this stuff is so important, why doesn’t everyone offer it for free on-line? I mean, I’m all for doing training if you are adopting internationally for the first time, but does it have to be so much and so expensive?? Any one know of any creative ways to meet the criteria?
So anyway, hopefully I’ll be able to provide updates on a more regular basis. And yes, for those of you who asked, we are going back to the same orphanage in Colombia where Sebastian is from. The wait is probably twice as long now, but whatever. Ive learned that rushing the process isn’t worth it in the end.
Hope you had a productive day too!